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"Robert's latest book has to be this year's must-read . . ."Lynette Palmen AM, founding director, Women's Network Australia


Robert Rabbin's latest book, RealTime Speaking: YOU Are the Message!, is drawing rave reviews from international thought leaders and cultural trendsetters, including: from Australia, Olympic gold medalist and Oarsome Foursome member Drew Ginn OAM and social activist Dr. Helen Caldicott; from the U.S., 4-time NBA champion and TV host John Salley and Alan Webber, founding editor of America's hottest business magazine Fast Company; from the U.K., Adrian Gilpin, founding director of the Institute of Human Development.

"Make no mistake: this is not a book about public speaking. This is a book about public living!"-
Alan M. Webber, founding editor, Fast Company magazine

Rabbin is the creator and director of RealTime Speaking, whose radically powerful public speaking programs, which inspired the book, are transforming Australia's cultural landscape. On the surface, Rabbin teaches people to speak with credibility and confidence through authentic connection. People quickly and easily learn how to express themselves with authenticity and integrity, how to command trust and respect, and how to promote their ideas, projects, and businesses with real impact by speaking transparently and from the heart. But beneath this, an alchemical process of personal freedom is at work, with Rabbin transforming himself from trainer to shaman as he sets about liberating people's expressive power from the tight grip of suppression, fear, and self-doubt. Before moving to Melbourne in 2005, Robert spent 20 years at the forefront of U.S. cultural renewal as a keynote speaker, executive coach, and author of numerous books and articles.

"Robert's book is an inspiration; it demonstrates on every page how our destiny is absolutely in our own voice."
- Adrian Gilpin, chairman, Institute of Human Development

Rabbin's book comprises 26 essays by RealTime Speaking workshop participants - Australians from all walks of life - from leadership experts to magazine editors, from corporate managers to holistic healers - who tell their profound and poignant stories of personal growth and professional success by claiming their power to speak publicly with credibility and confidence, finding deeper meaning along the way, and transforming their lives with the power of authentic self-expression. Following each compelling essay is Robert's expert Commentary, in which he expands upon a theme from the preceding essay, thus slowly presenting the principles and practices of RealTime Speaking throughout the book, but within the context of his students' stories.

"Robert Rabbin is a master of prose and clearly a man who has faced his own demons . . ."-
Liliane Grace, author of The Mastery Club

In his orienting first chapter entitled "RealTime Speaking," Robert writes, "RealTime Speaking is about public speaking in its truest meaning; it is about living out loud, about liberating the full measure of our creative power and expressive potential. If we do not first free our speaking spirit from the repressive tyranny of self-doubt and suppression, we will never find the song only we can sing and all our speaking will be off key, shallow and flat. And so will our life be shallow and flat, as our great dreams and aspirations remain unspoken, dying or dead within us. But if we reclaim our power of speaking with authenticity, confidence, and connection, then something huge and wonderful happens, magically and mysteriously, almost inevitably. We begin to live out loud! We begin to find our true voice, and our true life. Meaning and purpose, accomplishment and achievement, success and happiness - all these come to us as a result of our RealTime Speaking."

"This book contains not only valuable lessons for all public speakers, but a powerful and uplifting compilation of real people
getting real about their lives, encouraging and empowering others to do the same."-
David Ohana, film director, 2002 Young Australian of the Year for Community Service

Olympic gold medalist Drew Ginn OAM writes in his Foreword,
"Facing a fear is never easy, and certainly speaking in public is often regarded as one of our greatest fears, one of life's great challenges. That's why RealTime Speaking is important, because it shares the vast perspectives and experiences of many people who have engaged this fear and who have taken up this challenge. In RealTime Speaking, Robert has brought together an amazing variety of people who share intensely compelling accounts of their experiences in reclaiming their power to stand tall and speak from the heart. In his Commentaries, he finds a way to honor them for their courage and capacity to share their stories while illuminating the dynamics of their process."

"This book will be remembered as a catalyst for truth, authenticity, connection,
and empowerment long after the final pages have been read."-
Adam Smith, CEO, Education Foundation Australia

Lynette Palmen AM, founding director of Women's Network Australia and dynamic speaker, contributed a Preface to Robert's book, in which she says, "Robert's latest book would have to be this year's must-read book for anyone wanting to unshackle themselves from all that pushes them down, holds them back, or keeps them quiet. If you want your voice to be heard, if you want to stand up and speak out with courage and confidence, you will find this book to be an inspiration."

"This is an extraordinary book that gives you access to your own humanity through the open, courageous sharing of others."
- Leanne Koster, founding director, Indigo magazine

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(Excerpt from a 1999 radio interview with Margo Robinson.)

Margo Robinson: Let's say that I am a woman who works for a company and I have trouble telling people how I really feel. If you were coaching me, what would you say, knowing I'm really afraid to tell people the truth because I'm afraid I'm going to be fired.

Robert Rabbin: It is a common problem. This suppression of our deep truths and creative impulses is the real source of so much distress and breakdown within workplaces.

I would begin my coaching with a bit of background. We have all been conditioned from birth to be afraid of our own truth. And in this regard we're speaking of our personal truth, of our own unique and creative impulses. We are told by any number of authority figures—whether it be parents or teachers or doctors or police or clergy—to conform, to be quiet, to be good, to do what we are told, to accept the world as it is taught to us. All of our creative, passionate, wild, and unique faces are washed clean for the sake of order and control. If we don't obey we are punished in some way. We have learned to associate speaking our truth with "something bad will happen." I think we can look back and see that this is true: we are pressured to conform, and in that conformity we come to doubt our own truth. In some way or another, from the very beginning, we have been put into containers for the sake of the status quo, for the sake of other people's ideas, for the sake of other people's security. We have to recognize that this pressure to conform has happened to all of us; it is the process of socialization. I'm not blaming anyone, and I'm not saying those who have tried to tame us are bad. I'm just pointing out that this has happened.

Then we have to see that while we were two years old, four years old, six years old, or eight years old, we were at the mercy of those people whose punishments were something we couldn't oppose, and that punishment may have been the withholding of love or approval. Faced with the prospect of loss of love or approval, we are apt to please others and live in their vision for us, rather than live in our own vision. We have to see that now we are not that child. We have grown beyond the vulnerability of childhood into a place of adulthood where we have much more power and capacity to negotiate with those who might want to oppress us for telling our truth. But we don't know that's the case because we're still acting from the conditioned response of associating "something bad will happen" if I tell the truth. It's an automatic response.

I would begin to explore with you the specific negative scenarios you imagine are likely to happen if you speak up, if you say your truth, if you really show up with all of who you are and want to be. I would simply ask you, "Can you prove to me that those scenarios will happen? I know you think and feel they will happen. They may even have happened to someone else. But can you prove to me that they will happen?"

You can't prove it, because you only imagine that something bad will happen to you.

I would ask you to push out a bit, speak up, stand up, express your thoughts and feelings and ideas, just a little bit more each day. I would suggest that you experiment with speaking your truth as a way of testing the assumption that something bad will happen. I believe that you will see your fears are unfounded, that not speaking your truth is just a habit created years ago for the sake of self-protection. The more we experiment with telling our truth, the more we will find that we are fully able to do this, without the consequences we imagine.

Of course, telling our truth should be done skillfully and gracefully, with respect for others. The more we are able to free up our own authentic self-expression, the more we are able to contribute to the lives of others, not to mention creating a whole new and wonderful experience of living and working for ourselves.

In fact, as we begin to speak from our heart, as we begin to open the doors to those soulful impulses we have been harboring in darkness, we'll see that the greater harm comes from repressing those truthful and creative impulses that we have been taught to be afraid of. It is always the perfect moment to take the mask of fear from our face and show the world our true beauty.

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Robert Rabbin is an executive advisor, keynote speaker, workshop leader, counselor, and author. He is the creator of RealTime Speaking and the co-founder of the “caring revolution” and Care Factor workshop. For contact information, please visit

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A Course Excerpts From Robert Rabbins RealTime Speaking Workshops > AUTHENTIC CONNECTION

We get irritated at having to listen to the digitized voice saying “listen to the entire message, as the menu options have changed.” Why?
Because we want to speak with a real live human being, not a pre-recorded digital automaton!

Communication is a contact sport: to play, and play well, we have to touch each other. The speaker has to reach out and touch the listener, and the best way to do that is through authentic connection.

If we want people to “buy” us, to believe us as we speak, we have to make an authentic connection with them. Authentic connection means that you touch your audience by speaking from your heart to theirs, in a simple, direct manner. You look in their eyes and you tell the truth.

Authentic connection has a precise formula:

Authentic Connection = Intimacy with Self + Vulnerability with Others

Whether we want to influence, persuade, inform, inspire, motivate, or incite an audience, we have to be, above all, believable. Regardless of the accuracy of our facts and figures or the sophistication of our information, it is really we who make the case. People believe us, not our information. We make ourself believable through authentic connection.

Authentic connection is what allows an audience to experience us as:

credible

trustworthy

likable

interesting

powerful

knowledgeable

passionate

memorable

believable.

If we are going to make an authentic connection, we are going to have to become very comfortable with seeing and being seen!

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